But they totally cover up abuse, right antichoicers? :P
I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.
I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.
Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.
When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.
And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.
I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.
I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.
But they totally cover up abuse, right antichoicers? :P
This halloween please say no to these costumes please just say no they are fucking insulting and Dia de los Muertos is NOT HALLOWEEN I REPEAT NOT HALLOWEEN THIS IS NOT A COSTUME PLEASE STOP TREATING IT LIKE ONE
TO ALL THE PEOPLE GETTING FUCKED OFF AT MY POST. THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I MADE IT. FOR YOUR PINCHE GUERO PENDEJX ASSES. “WE DO IT OUT OF RESPECT,” MY ASS.
this is capitalism ripping through my memories i hold so sacred. Memories of walking through the streets of Chapala after school with my grandmother, and the smell of plants for the preparation of the big event. Memories of memories of memories
This is capitalism and white supremacy destroying, erasing and making new… something that has connected me with my elderes and ancestors,
This is whiteness telling me my body, our gente is unwanted, dehumanized and conditioned to death but at the same time extracting a part of my identity and wearing it as a mask.
This is a mask made of our dead and torn bodies… this is literally a mask made out of ripped bloody flesh. The flesh of migrants who die every year trying to cross.. the flesh of people who become criminalized and confined behind bars. The bloody flesh of torn bodies from years of exploitation in sweat shops, fruit and vegetable fields, dish washers.. domestic workers…
this is our flesh ripped out cleaned, pampered and styled to fit a white face.
culturalappropriator said: i like this blog a lot but i think saying that you shouldn't date anyone older is a bit generalizing and rude. i generally date older guys (18-24) and we can have genuine conversations. most of my friends are this age. i turn 16 in two days. :/ idk i just think it's different in every situatiob
okay i was hoping i could avoid posting a big long ranty thing about this, but i’m still getting messages about this weeks after i made that post. so i guess i’m going in.
first of all, 18-20 isn’t really older than you. i mean, 19 and 20 is getting up there and i personally don’t really get what someone that age could possibly see in you, but i’m going to focus on the 21-24 age bracket here.
and just to clarify, i don’t think there’s something inherently wrong with large age gaps between couples. i just think it’s a problem when one of the people involved is a CHILD.
anyway. i’m sorry to have to tell you this, but YOU are a child. not just legally speaking, but developmentally as well. i turned 20 a few months ago, so i very clearly remember what it’s like to be 16. and even if i didn’t, it doesn’t take very much to know what being 16 is about: you live with your parents and have to answer to them; you maybe have a part-time job but definitely don’t support yourself; you go to high school, where you have to ask permission to go to the bathroom; you most likely have a curfew; and you probably just got your driver’s license but can’t drive anywhere without your parents’ permission. and your emotional development is not even close to being done. i know you probably feel old, but that’s because 16 is the oldest you’ve ever been. in a few years, i guarantee you’re going to look back and realize how young you were.
people between the ages of 21 and 24 are graduating college, moving out on their own, getting real (full-time, skilled) jobs, and paying their own bills. it might not seem like that huge of an age gap to you, but you haven’t experienced the crazy amount of development that takes place in the early 20’s. people ages 21-24 are learning how to be adults, which is a phase of your life that you haven’t even entered yet. what about you could an adult possibly find stimulating? i’m sure you think you have genuine conversations with these people, but that’s because your idea of a genuine conversation & an adult’s idea of a genuine conversation are completely different. it doesn’t matter how mature you think you are (or how mature you may actually be): you lack the life experience required to relate with people that age. the mere fact that you feel the need to defend and justify your relationship to a total stranger on the internet shows that your relative immaturity.
all these things considered, you should be suspicious of what exactly it is that an adult wants out of a relationship with you. at the very best, these people are retreating from adulthood and moving into a state of arrested development. and at the worse, it’s about power imbalance and abuse. there’s a really great lundy bancroft quote about this:
"Why for example, does a twenty-two-year-old man pursue a sixteen-year-old adolescent? Because he is stimulated by her? Obviously not. They are at completely different developmental points in life with a dramatic imbalance in their levels of knowledge and experience. He is attracted to power and seeks a partner who will look up to him with awe and allow him to lead her. Of course, he usually tells her the opposite, insisting that he wants to be with her because of how unusually mature and sophisticated she is for her age. He may even compliment her on her sexual prowess and say how much power she has over him, setting up the young victim so that she won’t recognize what is happening to her. Even without a chronological age difference, some abusive men are drawn to women who have less life experience, knowledge, or self-confidence, and who will look up to the man as a teacher or mentor."
i could go on and on about the potential for abuse and the extreme power imbalance, but i think this quote says it all. it’s not just weird to be a young adult dating a child, it’s damaging and abusive.
all this being said, i’d just like to point out that a one-night stand is different than a relationship: hooking up with someone and then finding out that they’re way too young for you is different than knowing someone is essentially a child and still choosing to pursue them anyway.
this is my final word on this matter. i am not going to keep defending this view to everyone who has a problem with it. i’m done.
Just a set of quick photos I did for class.
you lost all your energy before you even walked out the door? you lazy bum
That’s exactly what a monday feels like
kinda what social anxiety feels like
I’M GONNA DO IT I’M GONNA DO THE THING WITH THE PEOPLE
*gets to door*
wait never mind i need to alphabetize my sock drawer
this is what chronic illness looks like. :( this is what I go through every single day. Only I’m at half empty before I even get out of bed… :\
exactly what chronic illness looks like. mental or physical. this is a great illustration, which perhaps people with more empathy than “you lazy bum” can relate to.
yeah this is important af
This is a truly amazing story of twin sisters separated at birth who discovered each other at age 25 through social media (see Facebook message above in which Anais reached out to Samantha for the first time). One lives in London and the other in L.A. and the two have shared a close bond since meeting. They recently took a trip together to their birthplace, Seoul, Korea, and now they’re hoping to make a film together about their story. Check out their kickstarter campaign here. Story via buzzfeed.
"I DON’T WANT TO BE TOO LINDSAY LOHAN."
GUYS ONE IS FROM LONDON AND THE OTHER IS FROM CALIFORNIA I DON’T THINK YOU UNDERSTAND HOW PARENT TRAP THIS IS
I love this story. I was so excited to find out they were legit twins.
Don’t fuck with me
This is great. You were very mature and explicit, as well as helpful in the ways that you could be. I don’t think you could have handled this any better than you did. 4 for you, Glen Coco.
I wish I could have stood up for myself in this way when I was a teenager
Threatening suicide to get what you want isn’t “borderline” abusive, it is abusive.
Men who do this have a very high risk of murdering whomever they’re trying to guilt trip when the guilt trip eventually stops working.
ironically hes joked about killing me before
I could never of been that sure of myself and protective of my own health when I was 14. What you did is wonderful and you should be incredibly proud of yourself.
Girls these days are so strong and should be praised. I could never have done this.
I am so proud of you OP you are a wonderful, strong young woman.
so proud of you, OP.
OP is actually a boy from what i can tell from his blog, so please don’t misgender him!!
really sick of seeing so much hate directed towards the police on here. look, we get it, you prefer sting’s solo work, i like it too alright? that doesnt mean ‘every little thing she does is magic’ and ‘can’t stand losing you’ arent awesome jams. ‘roxanne’ and ‘don’t stand so close to me’ are classic, don’t even get me started on ‘spirits in the material world’. just stop ok?