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#2. You Learn That There’s Such a Thing as “Too Nice”
Sometimes a movie or TV show will feature a stepparent as a character, and that person is usually presented as less than likeable. A good example of this is every movie ever made that has a stepparent. If it’s not the stepparent being a douchebag, it’s a rebellious little fuckhead kid who has to eventually be convinced that the adult is worthy of respect. … It’s natural to be scared of that idea, especially if you don’t have kids of your own. But in doing so, what often happens is that the stepparent goes the polar opposite direction and becomes overly nice.
A few days ago in a parking lot in Lisbon wheelchair users and volunteers occupied all the available Non-Handicap spaces to make a point to able-bodied motorists what it is like to have “their” parking places unavailable to them.
On every wheelchair various notes were left like: "be right back", "it only takes a moment", "I’m get something here", etc.
Reblogged this yesterday from a different source, but I think this photograph is more powerful.
I love this so much I’ll reblog it a million times!
Didn’t really need the wheelchair if they decided to leave it, did they?
maybe they were chairs loaned by volunteers.
maybe they were provided by wheelchair users with more than one chair.
maybe they were provided by people who can walk short distances, but need a chair for long distances.
maybe they were provided by wheelchair user who felt the issue was so prevalent they actually sacrificed the ability to get around for the time they were placed there.
those are just a few possibilities. but, gee, how dare those fakers not be grateful enough for the few crumbs - passed as accessibility - thrown at their feet, that they have to swallow with a fucking smile on their face every day, so some asshole won’t attack their speaking up about their experiences as a disabled person.
"My body, my choice" only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.
Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.
See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon.
Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy.
To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died.
You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies.
Emily was on the front page of Yahoo! which makes me very happy. Her video about sexism is fantastic and I am so happy she took the time to talk about the topic.
If you haven’t heard from me in the last few days, it’s because I’ve been inundated with interviews and media requests, phone calls and messages, book offers, broadcast television show proposals, TV appearances, tour circuit and lecture series offers. Someone even asked if I would write an endorsement for their children’s nature book. And, don’t get all nutty on me because I haven’t agreed to anything (yet [maybe]).
This has all come as a surprise for a few reasons: one, I had no idea this video would resonate so strongly with not just women, but men, parents, teachers, business people and CEOs and journalists.
Two, I am hugely surprised that everyone is acting as though this is news. My video wasn’t revealing anything ground breaking, previously unspoken, or unknown. The Internet has dealt with its anonymous critics since the beginning, people in the public eye will always be widely scrutinized, and women have had their appearance come before their accomplishments before.
But what I am the most surprised about is that the majority agrees with me on this one: that negative online communities are detrimental, and also that these things can improve and get better for content creators of all kinds. That if enough people speak up in favor of fostering encouraging environments online, it will happen. You see this environment in the comment section of PBS Idea Channel, an educational series known for their delightfully constructive community. You see this in the Nerdfighter community. Why not for other educational channels?
The reception of that video far exceeded any expectations I had, and I take it as an indication that we are all working together towards positive change. Thank you, all of you.
A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?
Autostraddle (via notaprincessdestinedtobeawitch)
Guys. You need to read this.
only thing I would add is that this is all true but we don’t per se need to coddle men’s feelings in advocating feminism because these are more side effects of feminism u feel.
Also for the one about fighting and industrial accidents it shouldn’t be so much that women are seeking equal access to these but idk for me ideally feminism should take on a Marxian and pacificist perspective in rejecting labor inequality and war/imperialism, for everyone